Cute Dude

I am a gentleman, but hip. I like girls, but not beer or sports. I am style, but am neither gay nor metrosexual. I love technology but am not obsessed with it. I love travel, cooking, fashion, music, and pop culture. Welcome to my world.
June 15

What to do if I hate my body?

Anne really hates her body, it seems.  She writes:

  1. My thighs; I find them fat and gross, so I normally wear pants that are flattering to my butt but show my thighs to be a little slender (so black yoga pants is what I basically wear)
  2. I hate my arms. I find them fat but I deal with that wearing t-shirts because it’s so hot to wear long sleeves. But I do not wear tanks at all. I do wear a swimsuit but I like strapless because it draws more attention to your whole body and not just to areas that I dislike.
  3. I hate my sides. I feel that my sides/love handles need a lot of work. I workout everyday for about 2 hours but I do mostly cardio and abs (no lifting or weights)
  4. I hate that I don’t find myself pretty or attractive based on my body.
  5. I hate weighing 129-130 pounds; I want to be down to at least 120.
  6. Everyone has said that I am attractive but I tell them thank you but I don’t see it because I don’t see myself the way they see me. It’s very aggravating.

It is clear that you are not pleased with your body and how you look.  Trust me, we all wish we looked better.  For instance, as a 5’8” guy I weigh just 130 lbs but I sill notice that I got some fat on my waist or I dislike how my face looks or how ordinary looking I am and why I don’t look like Brad Pitt.  No I am not joking.  What I am saying is that even Hollywood stars feel bad about how they look.  So for you to feel that way is fine; we just have to work together to see how you can start liking what is good about your body and then show that off while you try to get to your dream body.

You haven’t told me your height but a girl who is trying to lose just 10 lbs or less than 10% of her body weight, is actually in very good shape.  Trust me, I know women who write to me and they want to lose 120 lbs.  Yep, they are 200 lbs plus.  What I am realizing is that you are setting very high standards for yourself and then beating yourself up for not achieving them.  You have to stop beating yourself up and start believing all the negative thoughts.  Once you excrete those thoughts and accept the body that you have been blessed with, you will feel beautiful inside and that will show on your face and be reflected in your personality.